birth · family · Health · Maternity

Blog series post #6: Better post-natal care

After my last post, I took a step back, as I found it really emotionally draining to go back over the utterly shite treatment I had with my last birth in particular. But the state of post-natal care also needs to be addressed and was, on the whole, poor during both my experiences. There have… Continue reading Blog series post #6: Better post-natal care

birth · Health · Maternity

More midwives only half the answer

The government announced recently that more than 3,ooo places on midwifery training courses will be created over the next four years. There also been the ‘promise’ to mothers that they will be seen by the same midwife throughout labour, pregnancy and birth by 2021. It’s an admirable aim, and one that would vastly improve the… Continue reading More midwives only half the answer

Baby Loss · Health · Research

Tommy’s #SleepOnSide campaign

An important message has been discussed this week as newly-released research has prompted a #SleepOnSide campaign by Tommy’s that advises women to go to sleep on their side during the third trimester of pregnancy to reduce the risk of stillbirth. Having had early losses, I can’t imagine the pain of stillbirth, and there are some… Continue reading Tommy’s #SleepOnSide campaign

birth · Health · Miscarriage · Pregnancy after loss

Getting caught up in process, not progress

With Birth Trauma Awareness Week having taken place a few weeks ago and a bit of a hoo-ha about the pushing or not pushing (excuse the pun) of ‘normal’ births in the news recently (there is a great piece about it here), it seems apt that after another difficult birth experience for me second time… Continue reading Getting caught up in process, not progress

Health · infertility · Miscarriage · Research

Saying the right thing

Breaking the silence around miscarriage is a tough thing to do, and one of the problems is that many people feel awkward talking about the subject of loss with those that have experienced it, or are going through it, for fear of saying the wrong thing and feeling uncomfortable. It can also be hard for… Continue reading Saying the right thing

birth · family · Fourth Trimester · Health · Parenting · Perinatal Mental Health · Pregnancy after loss

It’s ok not to feel ok

I was debating posting this but in the end decided it helps to share, even if sometimes you feel you are shouting into an empty room.In the early days after having a baby, any mention of having down days immediately means people think you might have PND, and this discourages any talk of the times… Continue reading It’s ok not to feel ok

birth · Health · Pregnancy after loss

When birth doesn’t go to plan…again (Part 2)

Once I was transferred to the post natal ward, I was put into bay ‘B4’. That was what was written on my notes, and my name was not even noted down above my bed. The experience on the ward with my first son had been noisy and stressful so another request of mine had been… Continue reading When birth doesn’t go to plan…again (Part 2)