family · Parenting · School

A home visit blighted by balloons

It’s the eve of our four-year-old starting school and we had the obligatory home visit a few days ago. The teacher and TA were lovely, and the school have a great way to make the visit seem more exciting by sending you a yellow balloon with a smiley face on it in anticipation of their… Continue reading A home visit blighted by balloons

birth · Health · Miscarriage · Pregnancy after loss

Getting caught up in process, not progress

With Birth Trauma Awareness Week having taken place a few weeks ago and a bit of a hoo-ha about the pushing or not pushing (excuse the pun) of ‘normal’ births in the news recently (there is a great piece about it here), it seems apt that after another difficult birth experience for me second time… Continue reading Getting caught up in process, not progress

Health · infertility · Miscarriage · Research

Saying the right thing

Breaking the silence around miscarriage is a tough thing to do, and one of the problems is that many people feel awkward talking about the subject of loss with those that have experienced it, or are going through it, for fear of saying the wrong thing and feeling uncomfortable. It can also be hard for… Continue reading Saying the right thing

family · Fourth Trimester · Parenting

A day in the life…

The summer holidays are here and so most of my days at present are spent with both an 8-week-old and a four-year-old. I’ve been impressed with the help the four-year-old has been giving me. Happy to fetch things and protective over his new brother.  He’s not doing much for my self esteem though. His most… Continue reading A day in the life…

birth · family · Fourth Trimester · Health · Parenting · Perinatal Mental Health · Pregnancy after loss

It’s ok not to feel ok

I was debating posting this but in the end decided it helps to share, even if sometimes you feel you are shouting into an empty room.In the early days after having a baby, any mention of having down days immediately means people think you might have PND, and this discourages any talk of the times… Continue reading It’s ok not to feel ok

birth · Health · Pregnancy after loss

When birth doesn’t go to plan…again (Part 2)

Once I was transferred to the post natal ward, I was put into bay ‘B4’. That was what was written on my notes, and my name was not even noted down above my bed. The experience on the ward with my first son had been noisy and stressful so another request of mine had been… Continue reading When birth doesn’t go to plan…again (Part 2)

birth · Health · Pregnancy after loss

When birth doesn’t go to plan…again (Part 1)

He’s finally here. Gus Neil Whittle born at 7.27am on Saturday 10th June.  After quite a traumatic birth with my first son, I had hoped that this birth experience could be more positive. Here’s what happened (it’s quite a long story so this is Part 1): LABOUR AND DELIVERY I had always planned to try… Continue reading When birth doesn’t go to plan…again (Part 1)